Do people love their children as much as they say?
Today The Nurse is mostly applying herself to a conundrum: do people love their kids as much as they say?
She thinks not. Why? Because it seems to be all talk and no action.
The Nurse wonders why, if children are so precious, their parents keep feeding them harmful food until the poor little sods are clinically obese.
Then there’s the environment… we all know the climate is in tatters and future generations will probably face extremely challenging times as a result. But do parents care? It appears not. They still drive cars. They still buy gas guzzlers. And they persist in giving their kids driving lessons. Unbelievable.
Parents say they’re concerned about their kids’ health but they still chauffer-drive them everywhere. Parents want their children to grow and develop into confident, well-rounded human beings who can handle risk with impunity. But many won’t let them out of the house on their own without an armed escort. So how on earth will these children learn to cope with advertisity?
In complete contrast other parents let their kids run wild, uncontrolled to such an extent that they have no boundaries, no concept of right and wrong and no empathy with their victims. Just like the 10 and 11 year old brothers who were charged with attempting to murder two other little boys in the UK yesterday.
Talk about creating a rod for our own backs. By the time The Nurse is an old lady in need of support and kindness, the world will be run by monsters. If there’s a world left for them to run, that is.
Diane from PolyPak wrote,
I am a teacher and my students range from the ages 11-13. A lot of the kids that I teach show so much potential to be great human beings and great contributors to the world if they only had a little more discipline at home. There’s also one student of mine who weights about twice what a child his age and height should weigh. I look at him and wonder what his parents could be thinking. They’re sending their child to an early grave, not to mention making him a social outcast for being so big.
Do parents love their children as much as they say they do? No.
Link | April 14th, 2009 at 12:12 am
Erik from Shower wrote,
Scary picture you posted there. True. We’re bequeathing huge problems to future people who’ll perhaps be less equipped physically and emotionally to deal with them. Oh well. Hopefully science will come up with an answer to this issue too.
Link | April 14th, 2009 at 1:25 pm
Scrooby from Video Game Reviews wrote,
That last part, I wouldn’t say it’s that the parents lack love for their children, I’m sure they wouldn’t rat their kids out to the police because of love. But kids go that way because the parents simply don’t give a crap and let them run riot around the towns and cities at all hours. This then leads them to the rough side where they associate themselves with rough people which leads them to thinking they need a weapon to protect themselves for some reason.
If the parents actually layed down some rules and punished the kids when they were bad, they would most likely not be this way.
Link | April 15th, 2009 at 8:13 pm
Tom from Adjuvant therapy wrote,
I think parents treat their children as they desire to treat themselves. As a result, parents have all the same problems as their children. Parents (and nonparent adults) in many first world countries suffer from diseases like type 2 diabetes, lung cancer, obesity, high blood pressure – many dietary and life style problems that can be avoided by small changes in day-to-day living. Until they can solve these problems for their own lives, the parents seem doomed to pass these problems onto their children also.
Link | April 21st, 2009 at 2:32 am
steph from Frisco Real Estate wrote,
I have 3 kids 2 teenagers and 1 baby. I was much tougher on my oldest and I have to admit they are very grounded children. My little one now has an older parent and I admit more ran down. I love her dearly, but hope I don’t neglect what children need and that is discipline. Spare the rod spoil the child. I am not saying I beat my children, but they will face serious consequences if they don’t do what is right. My oldest are great children and I feel I need to get back into the groove with my little one, or she will be a pain in the ass later on.
Link | April 22nd, 2009 at 9:55 pm
minh wrote,
I cant take it if they start to give the “look”.. that is why I give them pretty much what they want
Link | April 25th, 2009 at 6:38 pm
Morris from Sydney wrote,
Hey, this is really true – harsh approach to the subject, but I agree.
Link | April 28th, 2009 at 2:17 am
webdesigner wrote,
The sad thing is , those children have no idea about anything, and thier mum or dad just stupids.
Link | May 17th, 2009 at 5:19 pm
Judy wrote,
Hey Minh…what’s that look you’re talking about? Murderous eyes??? Give me a break. Rotten kids come from rotten lazy abusive parents. I think a lot of people have kids so they (the parents) can be loved as opposed to having to give it.
Link | May 26th, 2009 at 7:38 pm
Jonathan from strap perfect wrote,
Nice topic.
It all depends upon the parents. Every parent has a mindset. If they were exposed to such behaviors, they will forward it. If not then children will adopt it some how.
I think parents are called parents because they are guardians of every thick and thin of their kids life (until and unless they reach a certain age). This does not mean keeping them in cold storage till puberty.
Keep them informed yet warn them of consequences of bad habits and encourage them to perform good ones.
Regards
Link | May 27th, 2009 at 5:17 pm
Kari from Baby Gifts World wrote,
I think parents screw up their kids because they don’t want to give them “tough love” when it is needed. They don’t realize that the short term pleasures they give their kids often lead to long term pain.
Link | June 10th, 2009 at 7:45 pm
jr from Office Equipment from Office Zone wrote,
I completely agree with steph’s comment. Children need discipline. I don’t have kids myself, but I notice a huge difference in the behaviors of my sisters children vs. my brother’s children. My sister’s children are well behaved because their parents won’t let them get away with bad behavior. My brother and his wife, on the other hand, are too soft when it comes to disciplining their children, and you can tell the difference by the way their children behave.
Link | June 16th, 2009 at 9:58 pm
Carl from Pet Meds wrote,
You have to let your child know what is right and wrong, even if you feel like the biggest shit on earth after you been angry to your kid, I know because this is how I feel after been angry to my children. I love my children and this is the most valuable I have but if I’m not telling them what is right or wrong who will do?
Link | July 6th, 2009 at 11:38 pm
juergen from retirement Income calculator wrote,
Looking at your picturs your stated question has to answered with no. Do the people not recognisze that children in a similar age are very agile and quite more active? Recognizing this must lead to a corresponding activity – doesn’t it?
Link | July 30th, 2009 at 6:02 am
barbie from Melissa and Doug wrote,
OMG!
this is really alarming…
I just wish I am doing the right thing for my baby…
Link | September 5th, 2009 at 2:48 pm
guy from high blood pressure wrote,
Thanks for the interesting post. It is really sad to see children of this unhealthy weight. I look forward to reading more posts from you in the future.
Link | September 25th, 2009 at 8:30 am
Louise from buy tent wrote,
Is it weird if a dad kisses his son to sleep and say "I love you" before he goes to bed?
Link | July 22nd, 2010 at 10:50 pm
Jo from Baby Showers wrote,
Wow this pic is alarming! surely their parents can see it’s not normal? even if they are overweight themselves. I think there isn’t just one answer – i’m sure the parents to these kids in the pic do love them, but perhaps they are fooling themselves with the old ‘ runs in the family/genetic’ argument because to actually think they are doing it themselves with what they are feeding them is too painful to admit. Worse are the parents who just really aren’t nice human beings themselves – no kind of social responsibility or empathy with others, and their kids just learn it all from them. Often these parents couldn’t give a monkeys about their kids – and maybe their own parents didn’t give a monkeys about them either. unfortunately not something that is easily solved.
Link | August 9th, 2010 at 5:42 pm
Matt from Positive Parenting Skills wrote,
There can be all kinds of problems that cause kids to misbehave. We have adopted kids, and they’re unattached which causes them to be controlling and not have a conscience. You can’t just say it’s because the parents don’t care, or are lazy. Sometimes (quite often) that’s true, but not always.
Link | January 19th, 2011 at 6:56 am